When we were first married, he used to make me feel sorry for him, he’d say that when he was growing us his parents had favorites and did not give him a chance to speak his mind or chose a vacation or sit by the driver in the car, etc. etc. One of the items he repeated to me as an example of his parent’s discrimination against him was never allowing him to choose a place to go for an afternoon or a weekend. I felt very bad for him and wanted to make sure he got that wish the next time we went out. The following weekend we were wondering where to go for a day, so I asked him where he wanted to go, he said “I don’t care, where do you want to go?” I Said.” I really don’t care, but let’s go where you wait to go to start anew, no more you don’t get your wish, your new family would grant you all your wishes” he looked at me for a short pause, he stared and then said in a stern voice “No don’t give me that attitude, You say this now, and then for the rest of my life every time we do something, you’ll throw that in my face, He started to act like he’s imitating me and said “Remember when you got your wish that one time?! ”talking like as though me talking back at him.

I just stood there for a while, didn’t Know how to reply to what he was saying, I’ve never encountered someone in all my life who’d take a nice gesture like this from his newly married wife and throw it in her face like I had insulted him. Needless to say, we didn’t go anywhere that weekend I just spent most of it crying alone.